Sunday, April 29, 2012
Jim helped James build this "castle". James received a Lego magazine the other day and has been poring over the pictures of the new Lord of the Rings sets that will come out later this year. He has caught a few glimpses of the movies too so has seen that there are battles, trolls, and other warriors. He then created his own battle scene this morning with the Castle. Good vs. Evil? I don't remember how he distinguished the different sides.
Raindrop. I'm sure this was an activity using scissors skills. I guess it's something we can work on this summer!
But on this day I found James on the far end of the playground, looking like he was play fighting with another boy. Turns out they were playing "Ninjas". I wonder if they were using their learned karate moves?
They demonstrated a few moves for me.
Sunday, April 22, 2012
It's Harry Potter's castle! The little colored Legos are crystals and potions!
Brushing teeth, so he could tell Dad that he was a good boy each night. (And he truly was!)
And our Surprise sign for Dad. We hung the sign in the doorway. We heard the garage door opening at bedtime, but we rushed downstairs to be at the door to yell "Surprise!" and Welcome Home :)
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
The scene: Bedtime. Brushing teeth.
James, do you know what that word means?
You shouldn't use any word that you don't know what it means.
Oh, okay. (back to teeth brushing)
"Mom, what does that word mean?"
I said, "Gay is when boys love boys, and girls love girls, kind of like how Mom and Dad love each other."
"Ohhhhh!" (more teeth brushing)
"Mom, I'm gay with Grandma Rose...cuz I love her."
I guess I didn't explain it as well as I thought! I left it alone mostly but I did tell him that there are other kinds of love and we love our family, our friends, and all people in different ways.
He's only five so I don't overwhelm him with details. Kind of like when he asked me how babies are made. Just enough info to answer the first questions, but expecting to expand on it when he can handle it. (I should blog about that one too!). I did want to be careful and not call "Gay" a bad word. I was more concerned that he wasn't using the word correctly and then where did he hear it used? Jim thinks I probably have said it around James when I've described things at work. I think I always use "GLBT" to describe gay, lesbian issues though. Maybe but I'm thinking he picked up the word somewhere else.
Is it silly that I was secretly excited that we started this conversation so young?? I've always thought I'd be prepared if James told us he was gay but I imagined a ten year old or something (yes, it happens earlier than you think, especially if there are open, supportive parents like I plan us to be!)
Anyway, I'll always be glad to answer my son's questions.
I spoke with James' teacher too, more to tell her the funny little story, but also to tell her that James has a new word. This was also significant because she is gay. She was very quick to tell me that it isn't something they discuss in school, the general topic and also her personal life, but I was just as quick to reassure her that that wasn't a concern at all! No worries from me. She did laugh with me over this story and tell me she'd let me know if anything else comes up.
Oh but there's more!
The initial conversation with James was on Monday. Today he told me, "I'm gay with Sid. I love him." Sid is a boy at school. I reminded him about the different kinds of love and what he's telling me is that he loves Sid like a friend and not like he wants to hug and kiss him.
James gave me a WTF look and told me, "Mom, there is NO kissing at school."
I know James loves me too. He gave me a fistful of "flowers" today (:
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Every day James wants to check the mail. He asks for permission to run across the street, by himself, to check the mailbox. I watch him from the driveway as he looks both ways (actually a few times) and then runs across! He can barely reach the mailbox though.
He's always on the lookout for Lego catalogs and packages! And today there was one from Tia Kiki!
Thank you Kiki!